A How-to Guide for Dating a Gamer

Are the nights are lonely, and the days are unbearable?Still want to be with him? I’m sure he is a great guy on the inside, I know mine is, but there are just things that really get on your nerves? I know whattype of situation you’re in, and I know how it feels. It’s not very helpfultalking to a brick wall, but I’ve come up with a few tips to get things goingand to let him know what you’re feeling.Let me start off by telling you a little bit about myself,so maybe we can relate somewhat.


I met my guy online, and moved States away to be with him. Of course I made a visit to him before I decided anything drastic,and when I did it was very relaxing, calm, and nice to be away from my chaoticlife. You know, playing games and lounging around the house all day, not havinga care in the world. After a while you start to think to yourself, “is this howit’s always going to be? He seems like he cares more about the games than ourfuture.”

He does care about your future, and he does care about you, and nothat’s not how he is always going to be. He just needs a little motivation.Are the nights are lonely, and the days are unbearable? Still want to be with him? I’m sure he is a great guy on the inside, I know mine is, but there are just things that really get on your nerves? I know what type of situation you’re in, and I know how it feels. It’s not very helpful talking to a brick wall, but I’ve come up with a few tips to get things going and to let him know what you’re feeling.

Let me start off by telling you a little bit about myself, so maybe we can relate somewhat. I met my guy online, and moved States away to be with him. Of course I made a visit to him before I decided anything drastic, and when I did it was very relaxing, calm, and nice to be away from my chaotic life. You know, playing games and lounging around the house all day, not having a care in the world. After a while you start to think to yourself, “is this how it’s always going to be? He seems like he cares more about the games than our future.” He does care about your future, and he does care about you, and no that’s not how he is always going to be. He just needs a little motivation.

The key things you must keep in your mind at all times are…

Patience. Patience is one of the biggest things you have to have. Getting frustrated and storming off, or anything of that sort isn’t going to help the situation at all. You don’t have to talk to him that second, but you need to let him know that you’re upset or frustrated and want to talk about it later. You have to have a whole lot of patience to keep a relationship like this up.

Compromise. He isn’t going to be your knight in shining armor to ride away with you on his white horse, but you’re with him for a reason right? I’m not saying lower your expectations! Every girl has her ideal man, and for no reason should you ever have to lower them, just be reasonable. Don’t expect him to get you flowers every day, listen to every issue, and follow your every request. Give him time to be himself and play his games, tell him to play for another hour or so, then ask if he can spent a couple hours with you. Maybe he can spend the day playing and spend the night with you.

Attention. While he is playing games, it seems he doesn’t notice you or pay attention to you, right? It sucks, really. Don’t bug him while he is playing, that will only cause problems. Why don’t you try getting into some of the games he plays? Maybe you two can play together; you might connect more than you thought you would play games together. If that fails, maybe you should go do something you like, and ignore him a bit, make him see how it feels. I wouldn’t recommend this option, sometimes it’s for the better, other times for the worse. I’d put that as a last resort.

Listen. While he is playing his games, he does talk to you, if you haven’t noticed already. It might not be about what you want it to be, but maybe you can sway the conversation to what you want. If you talk to them while they are playing a game, they actually are listening even if they don’t seem like it. He will say things while he is playing that might mean something to you or change how you view him. So listen to him when he seems to be ‘talking to himself’ while playing his games.

It might not be the best relationship you imagined in your head. At least you know his only fantasies are with girls who don’t exist! Always remember this saying: Don’t let the man in your dreams stop you from loving the one in your heart.